When done right, homework can be a powerful learning tool. Homework helps students practice skills and develop independence. However, at some point, all students run into challenges with homework. Parents play an important role in creating a successful homework experience, and these tips can help you set the stage for long-term success.
Are you anxious, impatient, or frustrated when helping your child? If so, you’re blocking progress. Learning is hard work, but it does not need to be stressful. You can set a positive tone. Ask yourself: what’s interesting about this problem or assignment? Be a model for curiosity and enjoyment along with focus and hard work.
Think about the last time you received positive feedback. Was it a generic “great job,” or was it specific and personalized? Specific praise feels better and means much more. You can give the same gift to your child. Celebrate wholeheartedly when your child makes progress, but be as specific as possible when you do. Describe the specific strategy and praise the effort your child used to solve a problem. Doing so encourages independence, resilience, and strategic thinking, traits that foster a long-term love of learning.***
Example script: “I love how you found a common denominator to figure out which fraction was larger. This way is more exact. Before, you were only thinking about numerators. I really like the way you kept working at this.”
Have you or your team ever had to adopt a new software or process at work? Was that frustrating? If so, you know what it feels like for your child to learn ‘your way’ to solve a math problem or write a paragraph. Kids have limited patience for unfamiliar methods. Let’s not force a new process without considering the switching costs. ‘Your way’ might be better. Still, show your child how your suggestion connects to the methods taught in school. This will increase the likelihood that your child adopts the suggestion.
Homework time should be interesting and energizing for your child. Yes, learning is hard work, but these tips can greatly improve your child’s learning experience at home.
***Read more here from Carol Dweck on how to encourage a growth mindset the right way.